Do you really want to deepen your relationship? Are you ready to take your relationship to the next level? There’s a lot of offers out there that promise to give you the perfect relationship and romance. I have my own program specifically designed for single women that in short-hand is a powerful immersive program in [...]
Cherish And Worship: The Care And Nurturing Of Your Soulmate
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in care, cherish, choice, commit, feminine, God, goddess, love, masculine, men, partner, passion, polarity, Relationship, romance, self, serve, sex, soul-mate, soulmate, warrior, women, worship
Pride CAN Come Before A Fall, Living On The Edge Of The Blade.
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in approval, approve, choice, edge, ego, human, humble, humility, love, pride, proud
Pride goes before a fall. Remember that saying? It’s actually incorrect. In the King James version of the Holy Bible, Proverbs 16:18. ”Pride goeth before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.” This proverb seems to indicate that pride is a dangerous pastime! It leads to destruction, oh my! Pride must be the worst thing [...]
Risking It All To Live Authentically
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in authentic, authenticity, calling, change, choice, coach, commit, commitment, date, dating, ego, free, freedom, gift, grateful, gratitude, health, human, humble, humility, integrity, intention, language, leader, leadership, love, partner, passion, photography, purpose, Relationship, romance, self, serve, trust, word
I made a commitment to a close friend that I will write a new post to my blog each week at least for a while to share my truth, to express my heart, and to serve the greater good. I was immersed and inspired during the recent Revelation Conference hosted by Agape, with a variety [...]
How To Leave While You’re In Love
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in break-up, commit, commitment, communication, date, dating, free, freedom, gratitude, healing, health, human, humble, humility, integrity, intention, love, men, partner, passion, polarity, Relationship, romance, self, sex, trust, women
I wish one of my relationship expert friends would write a specific article on “How To Leave While You’re In Love”. This has been one of the hardest things to do because, right or wrong, I still love him so much. I just had to take a stand for real partnership that I’m committed to [...]
The Sexual Future of Women
Tabby, I applaud your questions! Why? Because they haven’t been asked enough, and perhaps more importantly, they haven’t been answered fully, by both women AND men. I am passionate about authenticity, and in particular for women to be authentic, which includes femininity, sexuality, sensuality, power, strength, grace, flow, light, freedom and much, much more. None [...]
Love Is In The Air!
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in authentic, authenticity, choice, date, dating, ego, emotion, gift, grateful, gratitude, love, partner, passion, Relationship, romance, valentine
(originally posted February 14, 2011) HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY! How are you loving today? Enjoying the love of a romantic partner, of your family, of your friends, of your co-workers? Of yourself? Before I get to the heart (sic) of this note, here’s a touch of historic context. Despite the overly produced Hallmark tone of Valentine’s Day, [...]
Your Purpose – The Gift That Keeps On Giving!
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in calling, choice, commit, commitment, gift, purpose, Relationship, romance, self, self-talk, serve, service
What stops you from living full out, dropping self-interest, instead living your purpose and bringing your gifts into the world? You (well, not you of course, but perhaps someone you know) have many reasons and choices for not being all you can be, including the following: Fear of being noticed Fear of failure Fear of [...]
EGO – Need It, Use It Or Be Used By It. The Care And Feeding Of Your Ego.
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in authentic, authenticity, change, choice, communication, ego, free, freedom, God, human, humble, humility, projection, Relationship, self, self-talk, spirit
The ego is a funny thing. For many it is what defines them (USED BY IT), and they daren’t venture beyond its confines. For others, it is like a cage they are trapped in. For still others, it is all that is. And for yet others, it feels like the controller of who they are [...]
Gurus – The Post-Graduate Experience
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in Agape, Braco, change, choice, free, freedom, guru, healing, human, humble, humility, leader, self, serve, service, soul, spirit, The Secret
In conversation with another renegade free thinker this morning, I shared my experience of Braco, who shared his gazing gift at Agape this past weekend. He suggested I write about my experience as it may serve others. You can find my friend Ran at http://livingthedreamdeferred.blogspot.com BRACO This past Sunday, Agape welcomed Braco (pronounced Brat-zo) and he shared [...]
Words Can Hurt You
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in assume, assumption, change, choice, communication, forgive, forgiveness, free, freedom, generalization, integrity, intention, judge, judgment, mistake, neuro-linguistic, neuro-linguistic programming, nlp, programming, self, self-talk, serve, service, should, try, victim
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me? How many times as a kid did you hear (or use) that saying “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” ? In my pre-teen years, growing up in England, that was said so many times, [...]
Polar Opposites: The Dance of Romance – It Takes Two to Tango!
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in commit, commitment, date, dating, feminine, human, masculine, matchmaking, men, online dating, partner, passion, physical, polarity, Relationship, romance, self, sex, women
My work as a relationship coach and guide provides me with many interesting conversations and experiences that become teachings for all! Here’s one such example. Romance is a dance where there is much mystery, confusion, archetypal beliefs, role-playing, formality, theatre, misperception, thrust & parry, gesture and response, ostentation, and often flowers. Today, I was talking [...]
Being An Eagle In The Eye Of The Storm – Having The Greatest Leverage In Any Situation!
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in blame, care, change, choice, climate, coach, eagle, emotion, flexibility, flexible, free, freedom, gratitude, judge, judgment, Relationship, storm, victim, weather
Roll up your sleeves folks, let’s get to work… First, some questions to prime the pump: How do you feel when that car cuts you off on the freeway? Or does your stomach sink when you see that letter in your mailbox from the debt collector/your ex/the IRS/the credit card company/etc.? Or has your boss [...]
44 in 18*: Adventures in House-Sitting. Lesson 7: Service
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in adaptable, authentic, authenticity, calling, care, change, choice, communication, difference, different, ego, emotion, flexibility, flexible, free, freedom, God, gratitude, healing, health, house-sit, hug, human, humble, humility, initiate, integrity, intention, lead, leader, leadership, purpose, Relationship, self, service, soul, spirit
“I can’t afford to.” “I don’t have time.” “I am too busy.” “It’s not my thing.” If you have said any of these before (and I have too), get a clue! “I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing I do know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are [...]
41 in 16*: Adventures in House-Sitting. Lesson 6: Freedom
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in adapt, adaptable, authenticity, butterfly, caterpillar, change, choice, coach, emotion, faith, flexibility, flexible, free, freedom, galaxy, grateful, gratitude, healing, hitchhiker, house-sit, humility, intention, mental, olympic, olympics, purpose, reaction, Relationship, trust, victim, Victor Frankl
had originally intended to write about a different lesson at this point in the journey. Even though I had written quite a lot, it wasn’t coming together and feeling ready to share. I sat with that for a few days, and during a time of contemplation and reflection, the word freedom loomed large in my awareness (!), [...]
38 into 16*: Adventures in House-Sitting. Lesson 5: Flexibility
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in adapt, adaptable, calling, change, choice, coach, communication, couch-surf, faith, flexibility, flexible, gratitude, house-sit, humble, humility, integrity, intention, mental, nomad, passion, purpose, trust, victim
Looking back over these past months, a fundamental skill I have honed over this time has been my ability to be flexible, not simply in the physical plane about housing accommodations, but perhaps more importantly flexible on the mental plane. Having flexible thinking kept me adaptable, willing and nimble. It is truly the core of [...]
37 into 15: Adventures in House-Sitting. Lesson 4: Choice
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in assume, assumption, choice, communication, couch-surf, ego, emotion, faith, gratitude, house-sit, integrity, judge, judgment, mental, physical, purpose, reaction, Relationship, trust, victim
Believing we don’t have a choice is a lie! Let me say that another way – YOU HAVE CHOICE IN EVERY MOMENT! “It is the ability to choose which makes us human.” Madeleine L’Engle “We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them.” Kahlil Gibran “I discovered I always have choices and sometimes it’s [...]
37 into 15: Adventures in House-Sitting. Lesson 3: Gratitude
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in change, coach, communication, couch-surf, faith, gratitude, house-sit, human, humble, humility, integrity, judge, judgment, mental, reaction, self, victim
I remember one evening several months ago, about 9pm, packing up my car from one house-sit that had ended, with no idea where I would be staying that night. I must admit my limited thinking began to show up. I was beginning to wonder if my luck was running out (which is so ridiculous to [...]
37 into 15: Adventures in House-Sitting. Lesson 2: Humility
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in authenticity, choice, communication, ego, faith, forgive, gratitude, house-sit, humble, humility, integrity, judge, judgment, leap of faith, mental, projection, reaction, self, soul, spirit, trust, victim
Humility means different things to different people. For some, it means weakness or being less than. For others it has connotations of shame or chagrin. For still others it means emptying out and being unattached. My own interpretation of humility is closer to the latter – I describe it as releasing of the ego in [...]
37 into 15: Adventures in House-Sitting. Lesson 1: Initiation
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in authenticity, change, choice, communication, emotion, emotional, faith, forgive, gratitude, healing, house-sit, human, humble, humility, integrity, judge, judgment, leap of faith, mental, nomad, passion, physical, purpose, reaction, Relationship, self, spirit, trust
Saying there was a little trepidation as I took what was one HUGE leap of faith is about as accurate as calling the weather in Los Angeles slightly sunny! To give up where I was living and choose to house-sit and couch surf, what was I thinking? Looking back, I recognize that I had absolutely no idea [...]
Climate Change – A Deeper Cut!
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in change, choice, climate, doppler, emotion, healing, human, judge, judgment, mental, projection, radar, reaction, Relationship, self, weather
In support of BLOG ACTION DAY 09, I offer an alternate perspective on this year’s theme of CLIMATE CHANGE. My offering probably differs from most out there about saving the environment, global warming, the death knell of a dying planet, the need to go green, stop driving or eating meat, and the call to become [...]
Insanity
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in assume, assumption, authentic, authenticity, blame, care, coach, communication, emotion, forgive, gratitude, healing, health, human, integrity, judge, judgment, mental, passion, physical, projection, purpose, reaction, Relationship, self, trap, trust, victim
Insanity is a strong word, isn’t it? Do you know someone you believe is insane? How do you feel about them? Does insanity mean something bad to you, something negative or something that is unsanitary or unpleasant? For the focus of this blog post, let’s take insanity out of the clinical and psychiatric and place it into [...]
3 Massive Mistakes That Create A Crappy Relationship, Where The Sex Sucks, And Relaxing As You Is Impossible.
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in assume, assumption, authentic, authenticity, coach, communication, feminine, integrity, masculine, mask, men, passion, purpose, Relationship, trust, women
Did that title grab your attention? Glad to hear it! It is my hope that you may pick up some useful tips that will make your relationships a whole lot more passionate, entertaining, rewarding, and rich. This article is aimed at the monogamous straight relationship folks, so I am using masculine, warrior and men interchangeably [...]
Care Of The Self
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in care, coach, emotion, emotional, grateful, gratitude, hug, mental, physical, self, spiritual
How do you gauge what’s important to you? Do you consider each opportunity and action before taking a step, or do you run on automatic pilot? Can your daily life be summarized as hitting the snooze button seven times before you drag yourself to the bathroom to blurrily get yourself presentable, then drive impatiently through [...]
First Trap That Can Get You Stuck In A Career You Hate! (Part 4 of 4)
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in blame, calling, forgive, forgiveness, human, judge, judgment, projection, purpose, reaction, relate, Relationship, soul, spirit, trap
The first and most prevalent trap we get caught up in, particularly in Los Angeles, and most of the Western World is STATUS. Another way of putting it is we are trapped in the addiction of COMPARISON. Let me explain. Status is an interesting aspect of the Western way of life. It is probably the cornerstone of [...]
Second Trap That Can Get You Stuck In A Career You Hate! (Part 3 of 4)
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in blame, calling, human, judge, judgment, purpose, reaction, Relationship, soul, spirit, trap, victim
Again, these traps are equally impactful, and the order is somewhat unscientific! Let’s get to it. It is so tempting in this life to do what gets us by in our everyday lives. How many times have you made the choice to not do something risky or challenging or that may change your status quo? [...]
Third Trap That Can Get You Stuck In A Career You Hate! (Part 2 of 4)
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in blame, calling, judge, judgment, purpose, reaction, Relationship, soul, spirit, trap, victim
Honestly, these three traps are not graded by intensity or survey preference. The trap (or traps) you recognize for yourself may be in a different priority order than mine. The information, awareness, and resolution, however, are not dependent on the order! I just chose to write them in reverse order subjectively! So let’s get started. [...]
Are You Answering The Call? Are You Embracing Your Soul’s Purpose? (Part 1 of 4)
I’ve been embracing my own calling this year more than ever, and finding some interesting hurdles and potholes along the way that sometimes slow and sometimes accelerate my progress. I’ve led my own workshop once in August, and scheduled it again recently, however with no attendance, I postponed it. I have been pondering what stops [...]
Spiritual Bypass
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in forgive, God, health, human, judge, judgment, projection, reaction, Relationship, spirit, spiritual, victim
How can you be spiritual and yet get upset? Being spiritual means different things to different people. It may mean you have an understanding of who you are as a spiritual being, or have a spiritual practice of some sort, whether meditation, yoga, reading, or something else. For some folks, it is important for them [...]
Relationships – How Well Do You Relate?
By Barry on May 16, 2012 in blame, forgive, forgiveness, healing, health, human, judge, judgment, projection, reaction, relate, Relationship, romance, victim
Relationships can be the most profound or most mundane experience. Relationship with another can be a place to suffer and blame, or to thrive and grow. It all comes down to choice. Read on if you have the courage and curiosity to live life more fully and effectively. The relationship you have with anyone else out [...]
What If God Was One Of Us?
Before I get rolling, let me disclose that what follows is my own personal perception and knowing of God, and if yours differs, that is the uniqueness that we all are. The title is lifted from Joan Osborne, yet it opens up an interesting discussion. God is not just one of us, God is all of us, individually and collectively. God [...]